We women are undergoing a renaissance – suddenly, all those old paradigms, like our college clothes, are no longer fitting in the same way. It’s not always a matter of wanting more, but of wanting different. Some of us aren’t even sure what it is that we want.

We have lots and lots of choices offering us opportunities to design our lives.  The easiest way to create our life is to envision that life, and the woman you want to be, and begin to build everything from that point of view.

So, say that you want to be worldly, a traveler, cultured – you won’t become this person by longing for it. Instead, imagine this woman in her element; what would she be doing, day to day?

She would likely be planning trips, researching locations, studying languages. Where would she spend her money, how would she budget for what she wants to do? Much of this process is done for free; when you begin to think and act like the person you want to be, surprisingly, you become her rather quickly.

If you have a difficult time imagining what you want, you can also imagine what you don’t want. Tony Gaskins said, “You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.”

What we tolerate is what we get; you’ll need to decide exactly what you will put up with and what you will no longer tolerate before you allow your dreams become reality.

For instance, you may decide that you are no longer going to tolerate bad behavior from someone. If the behavior happens, you refuse to play into it. You may even say, “I’m not okay with this,” and walk away.

When you create clear outlines of your life, you create the map that guides you.

So, start envisioning yourself with fresh eyes and make her happen. 😊