When we get together in our sessions, I’m always amazed at how quickly things improve for you all, almost overnight.
I am sitting right there with you, smiling and listening, knowing that I too am navigating my own inner challenges and struggles.
Sometimes we can hold so stubbornly on to our old beliefs, that we get stuck in trying to be right versus trying to be happy. It’s the letting go of what we think is true that gives us such radical change in our closest relationships.
I’d like to think I’m pretty good at self-evaluation and adaptability, but there are many times where my old fears crop up, as well. Resilience through past hardship is one thing; reckoning with the painful moments that I may have created, and/or accepted myself, during those tough times is another.
By looking ourselves in the mirror, we can better see what we allow to happen.
For instance, we know that we all have wounds from the past, and those old wounds are probably going to be triggered in our relationships. We may even expect to feel abandoned, trapped, rejected, or overlooked by our partners.
Those expectations, however, are rarely caused by our partners; more often than not, it is our internal wounds and beliefs that are to blame.
Rumi noted, “Your task is not merely to seek for love, but merely to seek and ﬁnd all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
And, relationships are where we practice love.
Love is practiced through devotion to acceptance, presence, and forgiveness. It is diving deep into the most vulnerable parts of our heart and revealing those hard-to share places with our partners, while letting our partners do the same.
This is radical honesty, and this is why your relationships turn around so quickly. Through this inward journey, love appears and grows in your life in wonderful ways. I am forever grateful to be able to share this gift with you.
For those who haven’t had the chance to join our one-on-one sessions, I wanted to oﬀer another way to radically improve your relationship. In order to help as many couples as I possibly can, I just launched a brand new program – the 14 Day Relationship Repair Kit.
It is a boot camp for love, for both ourselves and for our partners. If you are feeling stuck, disconnected, or otherwise unhappy in your life and your relationship, I welcome you to give it a try.